How to avoid loneliness at Christmas

 This post was first published in 2012 so a slight update.
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I think that loneliness has almost become a ‘social stigma’ something best not discussed, it implies that one doesn’t have the capacity to make friends. Nonsense! Homeworking, no work, changing job, illness, divorce, death of a loved one, limited finances, reliance on social media, the empty nest syndrome and many more  can  play a part and research also indicates that many of us in the future will live alone.
 So for my ‘tuppence worth’  as my old granny used to say:
1-DSC07282-001One way to cope with loneliness especially at Christmas is to plan ahead.
  • Have  something special for the bath or shower,  so you can take pleasure in the smell, warm water, feeling refreshed.
  • Wash your hair, massage your scalp as you do so.
  • On Christmas day put a few baubles in the window to cheer yourself along but also for people passing by.
  • Plant some bulbs or  a shrub in the garden, growing things is  very therapeutic.
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  • Plan to wear something you like, a colour that renews the spirit.
  • Buy enjoyable meals – or the ingredients for same, plan to prepare and eat them at intervals preferably near a window where you can watch the world go by. Scrambled eggs on toast for breakfast?
  • Find CDs of your favourite music put them in a line ready to play.
  • Get the ‘Radio Times’ and decide what would be good to watch – mark with a pen in advance rather than resorting to wall to wall TV.   But if the latter option makes you feel you are in good company, go for it.
  • Keep warm – if you are hard up, get yourself a soft throw to curl up in, the kind of hot water bottle that warms up in the microwave.
  • Keep your Serotonin levels high, wrap up warm and go for a walk
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  •  If you feel brave enough, have a coffee on your own or a glass of wine in a local 1-DSC07218pub.   If you look around you may be surprised to find there are other people on their own doing the same.                                                                                                                               
  • Get to the library before Christmas and choose a book you have enjoyed in the past or a book you would not usually read.
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  • Clear out a cupboard and feel virtuous.
  • Fill a black bag full of things you don’t need for the charity shop in the New Year.
  • Brainstorm – which means you draw a ring in the centre of a sheet of paper and draw lines coming out from it like a sun, on each line put all the positive things that happened from the last week.
  • Buy some wool and needles, plan to knit a scarf in the day.
  • Spend time doing your nails.
  • Think of something you would like to learn, find a free lesson on youtube.
  • Buy some gold stars and write down every single achievement this past year.
  • Write a poem, a story, start a memoir.
  • Feed the birds, stroke a cat or hug a teddy bear. 1-teddybears
  • Consider trying a new recipe for the evening meal, something  you would not usually bother with – just for yourself. Lay the table, flowers, pour a glass of something nice, add some ice and slices of fruit. Appletise or if you are OK with alcohol, a glass of wine.
  • Ring someone who may like to chat.
  • Check your TV choices, or find a film on youtube.
  • Wind down, with some more music,  a warm night time drink.
  • Congratulate yourself for being so resourceful.                                         
  • Christmas is a sad time for many people, it’s unreasonable to expect all and everyone  to be jolly. Give yourself permission to meditate, have a nap, consider inviting someone over, just for a coffee or  tea and cake in the  afternoon.
  • if you feel really energetic, donate some time to a Christmas appeal and find a group who need a hand.
  • Never forget the Samaritans are always on call

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2 Responses to How to avoid loneliness at Christmas

  1. pat smale says:

    Very late reply but I really enjoyed reading this Love Pat X

    • ann perrin says:

      Thank you! Strangely this post gets read all year round according to my stats but loneliness is not just for Christmas. Take care ann x

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