This post was first published in 2012 so a slight update.
I think that loneliness has almost become a ‘social stigma’ something best not discussed, it implies that one doesn’t have the capacity to make friends. Nonsense! Homeworking, no work, changing job, illness, divorce, death of a loved one, limited finances, reliance on social media, the empty nest syndrome and many more can play a part and research also indicates that many of us in the future will live alone.
So for my ‘tuppence worth’ as my old granny used to say:
One way to cope with loneliness especially at Christmas is to plan ahead.
- Have something special for the bath or shower, so you can take pleasure in the smell, warm water, feeling refreshed.
- Wash your hair, massage your scalp as you do so.
- On Christmas day put a few baubles in the window to cheer yourself along but also for people passing by.
- Plant some bulbs or a shrub in the garden, growing things is very therapeutic.
- Plan to wear something you like, a colour that renews the spirit.
- Buy enjoyable meals – or the ingredients for same, plan to prepare and eat them at intervals preferably near a window where you can watch the world go by. Scrambled eggs on toast for breakfast?
- Find CDs of your favourite music put them in a line ready to play.
- Get the ‘Radio Times’ and decide what would be good to watch – mark with a pen in advance rather than resorting to wall to wall TV. But if the latter option makes you feel you are in good company, go for it.
- Keep warm – if you are hard up, get yourself a soft throw to curl up in, the kind of hot water bottle that warms up in the microwave.
- Keep your Serotonin levels high, wrap up warm and go for a walk
- If you feel brave enough, have a coffee on your own or a glass of wine in a local pub. If you look around you may be surprised to find there are other people on their own doing the same.
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